How to change direction and stop wasting time
Navigating change can be tough. I’m talking specifically about the pivot kind of change. Deciding what you're currently experiencing is good, and you want to experience something else. I might be making this sound vague and mysterious, so I’ll explain what how this applies to me personally.
Recently I’ve been feeling like something was off. Not bad, I just knew that what I was trying to do felt out of reach, far away, like I was struggling to grasp something I was reaching for but never actually got ahold of. Still sounding mysterious…
I wanted to change the direction of my business. Or maybe give it clearer direction. At the same time there was a voice in my head that was telling me I couldn’t because of x,y and z. I love what I do. I love what I share. I love that the thoughts from my head come out of my head, reach other people and then those people are impacted in some way, shape or form. Maybe they change their life path, maybe they have a realisation, maybe they're empowered to take action, maybe they share it with another person who needs the message.
Even so, I was still feeling like something was missing. Like there was something more specific I needed to do. Mindset and spirituality are very broad, so trying to help people within that context means a lot of ground is covered. I’m OK with this, but I still knew I wanted to be more specific.
And this is where the challenge came up. Deep down I knew what I wanted to do, but I wasn't allowing myself to do it. I kept looking for reasons why I wasn't allowed to do it, why I couldn’t, why it wouldn't work. I was digging myself into a deep hole. Then what I was doing stopped feeling like it was working. I stopped feeling confident in myself and how I can help people. Things started to feel hard and sticky.
I had to be honest with myself. I had to decide that It was going to work for me. That I am allowed to do it. That no one can tell me no except me.
So I did. And just in case you're wondering, I’ve decided to focus on helping coaches become GREAT coaches. A lot of coaches hold themselves back because they aren't confident creating a program, running a coaching session, what to do if they don't know the answer and how to actually coach someone. I LOVE this stuff and I am so excited to be able to create exactly what I needed when I first started out. A lot of coaching courses and programs focus on the business strategy and NOT on how to BE a coach. That's where I come in. I’m so freaking excited!
I’ll still be writing, talking and sharing about the same stuff as always, plus I’ll have some content dedicated to coaches.
There are a few things that were really essential in getting to this point. This has been coming for a while now so there’s quite a few things I’ve done to work through everything and get to the point where I can confidently start walking down a new path.
+ Daily inner work - I connect to my big vision daily (being well known for hypnotherapy, being interviewed in print and on TV to talk about it and personal development). I do this by meditating, asking my intuition what my next level looks like, asking myself “what am I quantum leaping to?”. Constantly connecting to the vision, evolving it, painting it, connecting to it, trusting that I’m already there and I already have everything inside me that I need to become that person. Then living from the perspective of already having it.
+ Dealing with limiting beliefs - some of my biggest ones were “What if it doesn't work for me?”. I was already assuming that whatever I tried wouldn't work for me. People wouldn't want it, no one would care, who would buy from me… blah blah blah. And “Am I allowed to do that?” What if such and such thinks I shouldn't be doing that… Seriously!!! It seems so far fetched but when it's happening it feels so real. They feel like legitimate thoughts that have a basis in reality. The important thing to ask yourself here is.. Even if those fears are possible, do you want it anyway? The answer for me was a resounding FUCK YES!!! I literally can't imagine myself doing anything but this. I try. I actually try to visualise myself doing something else and I can't see it in my minds eye, so I know it's not on the cards for me. The best tools for dealing with limiting beliefs are hypnosis, tapping, meditation and journaling. If you're not doing all of these then you are missing out on some life changing stuff. If you want to learn more about these we can cover them in an up-level hotline session which you can learn about here.
+ Prove yourself wrong - I have a science degree (!!!) and the way scientific experiments are set up are to prove the hypothesis wrong. So I decided to prove the BS that was holding me back wrong. I decided to think of it all as an experiment. What do you have to lose? What if you just tried to see if it could work? No pressure, you’re just going to give it a whirl, see what happens and let the Universe take care of it. IMPORTANT: Your energy still needs to be in the right place here. If you going into it with a mindset and energy of fear, scarcity, what if it doesn't work, no one cares… then people will pick up on it and it will be reflected back to you. You’ll just eb doing exactly what you're doing now (if this is what you're doing now) and you'll get the same results. This is about taking the pressure off, releasing attachment and having fun. Experiments are fun. And if they don't work you get to try again.
Pivoting and changing direction can be scary, but you have to be willing to do things other people aren't willing to do or you'll just get the same results as everyone else.
Have you ever gone through change? What kinds of things helped you? I’d love to know how you get through change and trust your decisions so send me a DM on instagram and let me know.
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